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Saturday, September 01, 2018

Thirty-Day Challenge for a More Meaningful Life (Day 1: Forgive Someone)


It is easy to get lost in a shuffle. Wake up-work-sleep-repeat the pattern type of thing and miss the basic truth that one day, we are all going to die. Chances are, we are too busy living our life that we are neglecting the groundbreaking message of what we are here for.
The bigger picture of having a consequential journey is sometimes inconceivable to fathom. Since it is the first day of September, I will start with a thirty-day challenge of living a more meaningful life imbued with commitment, meaning, serenity and contentment.
Day 1. Write a letter of forgiveness to the person who hurt you the most.
A known author once said that forgiving is hard because human consciousness has a hard time living at the present. The episodic memories bring us back and forth to the past and present reminding us of the pain that the experience left us. Hence, finding forgiveness in our heart will definitely not be easy.
I am starting at the most difficult challenge because it would be easier to remind myself in the coming days that if I was able to forgive the person who hurt me the most, then everything else is possible.  
Bottling the pain inside is not beneficial to us. Sooner or later, it will coat our heart with bitterness and cynicism that’ll affect us to live a healthier life. Forgiving also means releasing us from the pessimism that incarcerate our ability to make humble decisions.
It is more burdensome to carry the weight of resentment to the person who caused us misery. By choosing to forgive, we also choose to heal and to free ourselves from negativities and toxicity associated with pain.
Martin Luther King, Jr. explicated it beautifully, “We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive  is devoid of the power to love. There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us. When we discover this, we are less prone to hate our enemies.”

Today, I choose to forgive and it feels good.


38 comments:

  1. I think I so need to write maybe more than one letter.

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  2. Hmmm I agree with Julia. More than 1 for sure!

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    1. Lol. It always starts with a single step. :)

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  3. Forgiveness is extremely hard but is very necessary to be happy and move on.

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    1. Couldn't agree more. It is necessary to let go of the pain.

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  4. Wow!! Really enjoy reading your sharing here. Definitely learnt some useful points shared here. Gonna try up myself this challenge too :D cheers, siennylovesdrawing

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  5. Forgiving isn't really my cup of tea. But I guess I will try following your steps, thanks for sharing.

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    1. It's hard but it makes you feel lighter after.

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  6. I agree. Forgiveness though isn't easy, its very relieving and provides closure to both parties:)

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    1. Yes. Unless you have closure, it's like a silent scourge that will continue to pester you.

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  7. I should really do this. Thanks for trying to help others.

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  8. Really love the quote from Martin Luther King, Jr.

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    1. Thank you! It was definitely beautiful!

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  9. I don't know if I am ready to write that letter of forgiveness because I feel like the person who I will address to will not accept. Someday though.

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  10. wow you have no idea how relevant this is for me! I actually have a few things that I really need to address as it relates to this. I like the concept of this post and look forward to seeing the next 29

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  11. Forgiving others or even myself is so difficult, I love the idea of writing a letter.

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    1. It's difficult but sometimes necessary in order to move on.

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  12. As you say that forgiveness is not that easy, this is the only toxic baggage that I am carrying from last 4 years. It is so difficult to let go and forgive people. I think this gives them another chance to repeat their wrong doings. They start taking us for granted. Correct me if I am wrong?

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    1. It's hard to say what type of people you are dealing with. Some people are just naturally inclined to hurt others but so long as you don't bottle it inside you then I think it's fine.

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  13. oh god. Now trying to write a letter of forgiveness thats going to take a lot of braveness out of me. At first i wa slike like ohh thats easy. the you really try to take the pen and start writting and then recall the memories. im like hell no i cant do that

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    1. Takes a lot of courage but it's so worth it!

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  14. I love your post about forgiveness anyone can hold a grudge but it depends about the character of person that who can forgive. The giving letter is great idea but in my part it's kind a little awkward. AHAHA

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    1. That's funny. I guess it really depends on what type of people you are trying to forgive.

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  15. This got me thinking, what if the person who hurt me the most is not aware that he/she actually caused me such great pain! I think that gesture of giving will take them by surprise, whatever is next, remains to be seen.

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    1. That's why opening yourself is I think the first step that you should take.

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  16. Forgiveness is one thing I have struggled with> I admire the people who can easily forgive.

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    1. I think everyone struggles to forgive since it is not an easy thing to do.

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  17. Love your sharing, it's important to forgive people. Even if It's so difficult sometimes

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    1. It is a refreshing feeling letting go.

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  18. To forgive is the best thing one can do ..beautiful thought..writing is the best way to convey..
    Thank you

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  19. I agree about forgiving. It's so hard to do, but very important

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